I felt a quick flash of annoyance during a
swim this past weekend at Thetis Lake when a group of young people on a raft of
floaties cranked up their music a little too much. I then felt an immediate and
sobering flash of alarm that a bunch of mild-mannered young people having a
little fun in the sun had annoyed me.
Could it be that Cranky Capital Regionite
Syndrome is already upon me, a mere three months after arriving back on the
Island? Please say it ain’t so.
That pervasive air of easy annoyability
that has always characterized CCRS in the region has been wonderful to get away
from these last four and a half years in Central America. I thought I’d put it
away forever at this point, but now I see that it has just been lying in wait
for me back on the Island.
It’s all got me thinking hard about what
that cultural state of annoyance is really about. Why is it that I never got
jangled by all the unpredictable happenings of daily life in Central America
–noise, smells, traffic, gaping holes in the sidewalk, garbage, a constant
sense that any crazy thing could happen at any moment – yet I come back here
and find myself bugged by minor stuff?
I’m not alone. I see motorists yelling out
the window at each other over perceived infractions that not only didn’t cause
an accident, but probably wouldn’t have even if imagined through to their
low-impact conclusion. I see genuine fear in dog owners’ eyes when their
unleashed dogs come bounding toward me and their owners brace for yet another
tight-lipped lecture about leash laws and controlling your animal.
What is it about this place? Why does it feel like we're looking for reasons to be angry at someone for something? My sense of it is that we have
expectations of how our perfect day will go, and any breach in the plan feels
like a personal affront. We’ve come to believe that with enough regulation,
rule and law, citizens can be guaranteed a day where nothing untoward happens
to them.
Everybody’s going to drive exactly right.
All bylaws will be observed. No dog poo will adhere to your shoe. The peaceful
day at the lake you’re imagining will proceed exactly as you had hoped, and
never mind that all the other people sharing the rocks with you have arrived at
the same lake on the same day with completely different expectations of how the
day will go.
I
guess with the bar set that high, we’re bound to end up cranky when life gets
in the way of our elevated expectations for our day. Evidence of our
pissed-offedness is everywhere: We shake our fists; bristle at our neighbour’s
poor boulevard management; rap loudly on the hoods of cars stopped too close to
a crosswalk; make angry phone calls to whatever regulatory body we think should
be doing something.
In countries like Honduras and Nicaragua,
where my spouse and I have been doing long-term volunteer stints with Cuso
International, there’s so little regulation that all bets of a perfect day are
completely off. You don’t even bother thinking that way. You just step out the
door and try to stay prepared for what might happen next. I’m not suggesting a
war-zone scene or anything truly dangerous, just an environment that laughs at
anyone’s expectations of a managed experience.
The Victoria experience imagines that
through regulation and law, we can control the environment to create a pleasant
space for all, where unpleasant surprises are kept to a minimum. I think of it
as a very European way of doing things. (I particularly appreciate such an
ordered culture whenever I go bike-riding, an activity so risky in Central
America that I wouldn’t dream of doing it there.)
In Central America, it’s the environment
that’s in control. You enter it knowing that you are about to have whatever
experience it’s delivering that day, and that your wish to have a managed
experience is neither here nor there.
You’re going to walk past speakers so loud
and distorted they’ll make your ears hurt. You’re going to step in garbage.
You’re going to enter every crosswalk knowing it represents nothing more than
white lines painted on pavement. You just have to hope that everything turns
out OK, but there’s no saying that it will. (Guess that’s why religion is
popular in such cultures.)
And so you relax, genuinely relax, because
you know there’s nothing you can do about any of it. Far from feeling hopeless,
it feels freeing. You let go of every expectation and just go where the day
takes you. A dozen things happen on your daily walk to work that would annoy
the hell out of you back in Victoria, but you carry on without a flinch.
I’m not saying that their way is better than
ours. I do like that cars stop for me here in Victoria, and that green space is
everywhere. I like not seeing garbage in the street. I like not having to dodge
motorcycles driving down the sidewalk, or eye up every building I walk past for
the possibility of a rusty metal pole sticking out of it at head height. I like
knowing that if I wanted to, I could buy a small house on a quiet street with
no fear that a five-storey, all-night disco might open next door in the following
month.
That probably means I’m not yet a full-on
libertarian. But please, please, save me from CCRS. I don’t want to be that
boring old lady railing against noisy kids at the lake and unleashed dogs on my
street. I pledge here and now to stand on guard against any creeping sense of
entitlement, to reject the (admittedly alluring) notion that the world ought to
mould itself to my needs. Yes, my body is living in Victoria right now, but I
will fight to keep my spirit Central American.
Party on, gentle Thetis teens.
